You are entitled to your own opinion, but not your own facts. There are 2 genders and you can't decide which one you are. We are not talking about the .000001% of non binary people.... we are talking about someone who was born with a penis...and decided to take hormones or otherwise alter their body and appearance to look feminine. I'm done with this because your feelings have gotten in the way of accepting reality.
It's not though, if someone wants to be called she or her that's fine, I'd respect that. but they are not actually a woman. I think people who look feminine but have a penis are hot as fuck so there's no phobia here. I'm just stating facts. I can identify as a cat, because I'm not a cat.